For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
What happens when the poop hits the fan that is on full speed? It breaks into a thousand pieces and is spread everywhere. Oh boy! That is not fun.
Sometimes wedding preparations do just that. Even the best made plans can go awry- can be shattered, and what is supposed to be a special time becomes a stressful time.
You ALL know what I am talking about- people don’t seem to put in their part of the effort, and if they do, it is not what you expected them to do.
Well, that is kind of what happened here in the Bird household. As Mother of the Bride I seek the Lord to be full of His wisdom, for it is only God, my Jesus, who will help is muddle through this mess and find a message.
Lucinda Basset created a series on Attacking Anxiety and Depression (for yes, those two have often run rampant in this home) and we did that course about 10-11 years ago. Here is a gem that I found in that course and have held onto ever since...
LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS
Each person always has an idea of how things should work out, how things will look if they are perfect and that is a lot of perfects when you have more than one person involved! So lower your expectations. Don’t expect everyone to be happy, or to agree with you, or be on top form, or to see things the way you see them. Expect them to think differently and be prepared and willing to be content with whatever the situation brings.
I used to have high expectations when we went on holiday together... I wanted everyone to talk a lot, laugh and be happy. I wanted us to play games and get on with no fighting and arguing and it to be a refreshing time, but it did not work that way. When the others did not do what I expected them to do, I was unhappy and grumpy and demanding and that was worse than them no talking and laughing and playing games etc. The next holidays we had were better because I lowered my exectations...
It is okay if we do not play games everyday. It is okay if we sit and do not talk, simply be together, it is okay if the dishes do not get washed every meal, and the world will not stop spinning.
CONTENTMENT IS A CHOICE. IT IS NOT AS A RESULT OF EVERYTHING GOING PERFECTLY. IT IS A CHOICE.
Choose today- I will be content even if there is snow in May on the wedding day, even if the wind blows away my veil, even if I am 10 pounds heavier than I wanted to be, even if....
Choose today for those dates ahead, for even then the Lord is with me, He will never leave me or forsake me, He will love me no more, no less. He is amazing God and I CAN BE CONTENT.
Matthew 11:28New International Version (NIV)
28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
God will make a way where there seems to be no way. Let us choose to rest in Him.